{"id":2358,"date":"2020-08-24T18:20:06","date_gmt":"2020-08-24T18:20:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/insidejobscoach.com\/?p=2358"},"modified":"2020-08-26T23:04:34","modified_gmt":"2020-08-26T23:04:34","slug":"are-you-congruent-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/insidejobscoach.com\/are-you-congruent-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Are You Congruent?"},"content":{"rendered":"

John<\/strong>: Sandy, we were talking about congruence last week, when we do as we say and say what we do. I wonder why this is hard? It isn’t. It seems like basic follow through.<\/p>\n

How do you get your work done? By sitting down and doing it. How do you prioritize what needs to be done? Look at your list of things to do, what is the most urgent or with the tightest timeline and then do that first.<\/p>\n

If you find yourself getting distracted, the way to eliminate the distraction is to just say, I am not going to allow myself to be distracted anymore, and then you do it. Again, this seems like second-nature to me, probably because I am older and I understand the consequences of what happens when you allow things that are not a priority to become a priority.<\/p>\n

So how do you, or would you, advise someone to live congruently?<\/p>\n

Sandy<\/strong>: A great topic John!\u00a0 Being congruent means that you walk your talk (as they used to say).\u00a0 It\u2019s easy to make promises, to yourself or others, but much more difficult to actually focus and follow through.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s important to know that when you are congruent you build trust.\u00a0 If you say you\u2019ll do something, or not do something, and then follow through, people will learn to respect and trust you.\u00a0 They will believe you and what you say.\u00a0 You will also trust yourself.<\/p>\n

However, if you say you\u2019ll do something and then just don\u2019t people will quickly learn that you are untrustworthy and your word means nothing.<\/p>\n

Awhile ago I wrote an article about this important topic, and what to share it with you below:<\/p>\n

Congruence<\/strong><\/h3>\n

At a meeting last week, I met a man who introduced himself as a personal trainer and health coach.\u00a0 He seemed quite knowledgeable about his field, but later, at the break, he went outside to smoke a cigarette!\u00a0 This surprised me, since his focus was health.\u00a0 It made me wonder how effective he could be with his clients if he is asking them to do something he can\u2019t do. It started me thinking about congruence.<\/p>\n

Being congruent means living your life so that your words, values and behavior all align.\u00a0 You live your values and do what you say. I think the old phrases are \u201cwalk the talk:\u201d or \u201cpractice what you preach.\u201d In the case of this man, I was confused about how he could coach people to live a healthy lifestyle, and then deliberately do something unhealthy to himself.\u00a0 He obviously wasn\u2019t living a congruent life, and my response to this was to distrust him and his ability to do his work.<\/p>\n

When I became a business and life coach, my first job was to coach myself so I could be congruent as I worked with my clients.\u00a0 I focused on always being responsible, honest and trustworthy, following through, cleaning up things I tolerate in my life, and valuing the person I am.\u00a0 If I were going to ask my clients to do this, then I had to do it first.\u00a0 It\u2019s something I continue to do, every day.<\/p>\n

So, this month I\u2019m reflecting on the importance of being congruent.<\/p>\n

How about you?<\/p>\n

Please comment so others can benefit from your wisdom and experience.<\/strong>\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Sandy is now offering a FREE Coaching Call, so you can see what Coaching is all about.\u00a0 Please email her at Sandy@insidejobscoach.com<\/a> and put FREE Call in the Subject Line.\u00a0 She will get right back to you to schedule your call.<\/strong>\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

For FREE worksheets on ways to empower yourself, see the Resources Page on our Inside Jobs Coach<\/a> website.\u00a0 Also be sure to check out our Books and Programs page.<\/strong>\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you’d like to bring positive changes into your life, we have the perfect thing for you. \u00a0Check out The Rapid Power Pack<\/a>, and begin to create the life of your dreams.<\/strong>\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you would like to feel more confident and believe in yourself, check out The Confidence Pack<\/a>, which contains several powerful worksheets to guide you and an amazing hypnotherapy session to strengthen your belief in yourself. <\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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